“To let go isn’t to forget, not think about, or ignore. It doesn’t leave feelings of anger, jealousy, or regret. Letting go isn’t winning, and it isn’t losing. It’s not about pride, and it’s not about how you appear, and it’s not obsessing or dwelling on the past. Letting go isn’t blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts, and it doesn’t leave emptiness, hurt or sadness. It’s not giving in or giving up. Letting go isn’t about loss, and it’s not defeat. To let go is to cherish memories, but to overcome and to move on. It’s having an open mind and confidence in the future. Letting go is accepting. It’s learning, experiencing, and growing. To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you grow. It’s about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will soon gain. Letting go is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving. Letting go is growing up. It’s realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy. To let go is to open a door, clear a path, and set yourself free.”
“women are always hyper-watched for any sign of being “bitter” from past encounters with men. because “oh no!” if you’re bitter or wary or have trust issues when it comes to men then that’s YOUR fault and you need to pull it together because you’re nothing without a man!
when women (contrary to popular belief) are trained to love men. we are trained to love even bad men. men who are shitty to us. men who hurt us repeatedly. we’re trained to love men unconditionally. because a man is a man and we’re just women as patriarchal logic goes.
but when women finally start to unlearn that patriarchal mess that’s when they get accused of being “bitter” or “man-hating.” when really it’s not that they *hate* men. it’s just that they don’t blanket love and want to die for any and all men. but that’s a capital offense under patriarchy.”